Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Something Added.

I snuggled up to my big man & lay my head on his chest. A tear slipped out one eye & rolled down into the other, which turned on the slow trickle that's hard to cut off once it gets going. Breathing in & out I told myself the same thing I'd said over & over as we approached this day, "It's only a month and the sooner it starts, the sooner it's over." My mind drifted to my neighbors who recently kissed their husbands goodbye until next summer. Whew, a few weeks apart is nothing in comparison.

Regardless, whether a day, a week, or for months at a time, I do not like doing life without Mr. Beless by my side. Our last extended time apart took place in February when he went away for work. To be honest, that one didn't go so well for me, which elicited some anxiety as we approached yet another period of physical separation. I prayed a lot, talked with other Army wives, and tried to be proactive in developing a healthier approach so that it wouldn't be broadsided again. My theme for the month became, "Something added," instead of, "Something's missing." 

Last time Brooks was away I really believed I was missing out on something I deserved. That's a pretty dreary way of doing life for a month, especially since time with Brooks is a gift, not something I deserve. This time I've tried to look for the undeserved gifts that God has given to me and oh my, they are abundant!










Plus some mental pictures of time spent with Meredith/Reece/Kimberly/Suzanne!

The best part is that all of the 'somethings added' point to the One Who gives & gives & gives:

"Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change." James 1:17

8 comments:

  1. I can totally relate, my husband is leaving very soon as well. And although it is not a deployment this time around, the separation is horrible. I think everyone hits those points where they feel selfish about the situation. I know I do!!

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    1. Totally! Would love to read about the disciplines you practice to walk through the season of physical separation! Let me know if you post anything of the sort!

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  2. "especially since time with Brooks is a gift, not something I deserve."

    Love...love...love this!!! My husband travels out of town frequently for his job and has been for the past six years. It has made us better communicators and both the ups and downs have strengthened our marriage. Your comment on your time with Brooks as a gift is such an amazing reminder to me for my marriage.

    Great post!! Good luck with the separation, blessings and prayers that it will strengthen your relationship with each other and strengthen you as a woman of the Lord.

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    1. Thanks so much, KD! I was just talking with a friend about how to have a heart-to-heart convo in a short period of time with a hubby that is miles & miles away. Brooks & I have been using the few minutes we have to pray together, even if we don't have time to catch up on the details of each other's days. Would love to hear more about how you've learned to communicate across the distance!

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  3. Thanks for posting this and being vulnerable. Sometimes I feel like I have to hold it all together and look/be strong on the outside. Going through our first deployment. It's been difficult, but I know God is growing both of us through it. Praying for you!

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    1. Wow. I am so proud of you, Katie! I am going to have to bookmark your blog for deployment help! When does your man return? Will be praying for you during your time apart!

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    2. I've learned so much in the process of deployment, many blogs to come! I love reading your blog - helps me realize that I'm not alone in my emotions. We're keeping our fingers crossed for February, but that can always change. Thanks for your prayers!

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    3. Katie--I'm reading through some of the comments on my blog and came across this one. Did your husband make it home safely? I hope ya'll are back together again!

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